Living intuitively...what does that even mean?
For me it means freedom. It means I'm no longer attached to outcomes or how things need to look. I just...live. I feel into each moment and decide if what I'm doing feels aligned or not, and then I make intentional action to be aligned. As often as possible throughout my day, I stop and ask myself "Is this really what I want to be doing" (Notice how I don't say should). I feel into the answer, if it's yes, I will feel warmth and goosebumps. If the answer is no, I will feel restrictive and then I readjust. I ask myself "What do I want to do instead?" Again, feeling into that answer and redirecting my time.
Don't get me wrong, I'm not constantly living intuitively. I am still human However, I can physically feel in my body and in my energy when I'm living out of alignment. This awareness allows me to step back and take a look at the choices I am making, and I usually find that I'm letting myself be run by all of the responsibilities in my life and not making room for any fun. As a society, we are obsessed with the notion of "busy". Many well respected people have made millions on books about hustling and pushing harder for more success. Sure, that works, but it comes with exhaustion and disappointment in the end. Living intuitively allows for room to look at your life from a birds eye view. Once you're able to see the big picture, you can see what is important and what isn't. Then you can adjust your time for the things that matter to you. The things that light you up.
You're probably thinking, "That's great, Kaicee, but I still have bills to pay, kids to feed and run around to school and activities and a house to clean. I can't just stop doing those things."
You're right, you probably can't. However, when you're living intuitively, you're filling your cup so much in every other moment, that these activities no longer drain you. Your cup is full, and constantly refilling, so when you are fulfilling your responsibilities, you can do so with a much better attitude. You no longer feel like a victim stuck in this endless cycle of chores, you feel empowered.
For example. I hate cleaning. Despise it. I also hate having a dirty house. It drives me crazy to have a dirty kitchen or when I find garbage on the ground. It effects my mental health to be in a home that is untidy. Yet, forcing myself to clean when I don't want to drains me even more so than if I were to just leave the house a mess. So, what do I do? I feel into the moment. If cleaning is not what I want to do, I give myself permission to do whatever it is that fills my cup in the moment. Then I am able to come back to my chore and fulfill it without feeling depleted. The opposite is also true though. If I haven't cleaned in a few days, and I'm starting to feel effected by it (mentally), but I choose to check out and watch TV instead of doing what I know will make me feel replenished (a clean house), I am not living intuitively then either and therefore my energy goes way down.
Living intuitively is just about filling your cup as often as possible, by allowing yourself to make a choice in any given moment about how you want to spend that moment. Also, allowing yourself to change your mind.
When I am living aligned, it looks (to others) like I'm all over the place, but I refuse to let my life be run by the "shoulds". Yes this means my house isn't always perfect and my laundry is rarely folded. I feel happy though. I am able to give more of my energy to my business, to creating, to my kids, to my wants. The shoulds don't feel so big anymore. I know that some people look at the decisions I make and think I've lost it. I know I haven't, if anything, I've found it. I've found the key to living a whole, fulfilled life. I've found myself.
If I can help even one woman feel this amazing, I will consider myself successful.
A few tips to beginning to live intuitively:
- Learn to listen to (and trust) your intuition.
- Ask yourself often "Is this task lighting me up, or draining me?" Reminding yourself it's okay to change your mind as much as you need to.
- Allow yourself to nurture that inner child. Find out what they are needing from you. Is it more play? More quiet time? Just some acknowledgment that they exist? Sometimes writing a letter to your inner child in a journal entry helps to narrow down exactly what it is they want you to incorporate more of into your life.
- Connect to your Highest Self. Find a routine that works for you to feel into and connect to your soul at a higher, more in depth level. Mediation is such a fantastic tool, and will assist you in living inutitively, more so than anything else, especially at the beginning. Find a few minutes each day to sit quietly and allow your mind to slow. Listen closely, as your Highest Self, or your guides, will connect with you here in this moment of still.
- Take one day a week to practice living intuitively, ask yourself as many times as you remember throughout the day what it is you really want in that moment, and then honour it!
If you're curious, but struggling to figure out how to begin, book a 1:1 session with me and I'll give you personalized and channeled advice for you to take the steps to living intuitively. Fully aligning your inner child, highest self and your present self.